What if I don't want to go to court. Is there a better way?

Sometimes there is just no other way if the two of you can't work it out. I had to take my ex as he wasn't reasonable with anything I put to him.

Look at your fears and concerns, determine what control you have and what you don't.

There are so many better ways than court however it depends on two people being able to negotiate. This means being able to communicate their wishes clearly, being generous, flexible and patient.

If you or your ex end up getting suckered into court by a lawyer you may as well say goodbye to your doh, family and life. A girl friend of mine got controlled and misled into going into court by a lawyer when they were only one phone number away from cutting a deal in negotiations with lawyers. Part of a lawyers role is to catch, trap, control and then to fleece, transferring a client's wealth over to their own by any means possible. When you really come to understand lawyers and the game, you will never be bitten by lawyers ever again. I often wondered why people referred to them as rattle snakes. The rattle being a method to distract and mesmerize you before biting you.