Do professionals understand or really care?

By Michael Knight

Wednesday 29 April 2009

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It's been my experience many professionals don't really understand the trauma during or post a bitter Separation merged with intense litigation. I've also heard some people say that professionals don't really much care, as long as they get paid their money for their so called services. Once I heard someone angrily yell out that saying "stuff you Jack - I'm ok" as an indication of how they perceived a professional's help, or rather lack thereof.

Personally, Ive never had a follow up call, an out of hours visit or that extra duty of care that may make all the difference to a patient's recovery. Am I asking for too much?

Oh I'm not saying they don't pretend to care while you're having a consultation or even that they don't offer some handy advice from time to time. Of course they do, surely — mustn't they?

However, when it all comes down to it I've not met many who really deep down care as soon as you walk out of their paid consultation rooms. Maybe I and other people expect too much. Maybe we expect people who are in a helping profession and who actually get paid for it, usually by government, to actually help. Hmmm... Have we got a problem or what?

So generally speaking unless you're a trained professional and profiting from people's misery, you are on the wrong side of the fence. Simply put, you are stuffed, all alone, without anybody who really cares or gives a "tinker's cuss'. The path to recovery will be long or perhaps not at all, however best to get rid of that positive expectation that help is on it's way from paid pros' cos it ain't. It's all upto you Chucky — always was and always will be.

The medical profession doesn't even acknowledge someone suffering a severe family breakdown as having some form of post traumatic stress syndrome. Well maybe it doesn't fit into that category by its true definition, whatever that is, however it's pretty close or possibly worse.

Perhaps if it was diagnosed as an illness, well then logically speaking they would have to look at the cause. But alas that may mean the fall of half the economy that lives of the decay and suffering of family Separation and the breakdown that follows from abusive, deficient and antiquated systems.

So what does one do? Fix the problem, find solutions, have the establishment really listen to the needs and desires of their patients? Apart from that, I wish I knew.

Suffer in silence until you can fix yourself up, pretend each day you are getting better, perhaps over time you may become well and successful, ameliorate with age as the so called professionals put it, or simply die and have one less mouth to feed and speak up about the woes of getting proper help.

Could someone please wave that magic wand and begin addressing all the issues surrounding the harms of Separation, Divorce and protracted litigation, and let's start really looking at proper forms of rehabilitation for the poor souls who have taken a battering?

Take extra care all those people who are suffering badly and in silence.

With lots of love
Michael