Baby — Please don't leave me (Download)

By Michael Knight

Sunday 26 April 2009

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When you hear the words "I'm leaving you", from your husband, wife or partner, or perhaps one day they just didn't come home (you may or not know where they are), or you caught them with another person on the couch in your home (I won't mention the matrimonial bed), either way, your mind from this point on for many of us, goes into a whole other world. You feel a sickening pain deep inside you, as though you've just had your heart wrenched out, without an anesthetic, which then magically transforms into some form of anger if attempting to somehow protect you from the pain, at least for a short while.

These few words or act often trigger a myriad of beliefs, values, expectations, dreams or memories buried deep in your unconscious as well as your conscious mind, not to mention unleashing powerful emotional energy that can be as colorful as the prettiest rainbow or as bitter and deadly as the grim reaper in your worst nightmare.

Plus, if there are children involved chances are your feelings have intensified tenfold and matters just got a whole lot worse, real fast for the offending party, with some of the fallout possibly affecting your loved ones around you.

The often heard saying "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" often depicts when a woman's love is rejected, causing her to become very angry and dangerous. When you come to think of it, men can be just as angry and dangerous, as we have feelings and experience pain too, yet how women and men exhibit these behavioural traits, internalising them, releasing them or externally paying out on another, mostly the perceived perpetrator, depends entirely on each individual. It is not necessarily a gender specific trait. As much as it is common behaviour by some, it cannot be condoned, with these people needing serious help.

On a brighter note, for some these words can also be a sense of relief, despite the intense pain and anguish. They can put an end to emotional, physical and verbal abuse, or revealing a quiet knowing inside of you that something wasn't quite right. No more avoiding and stepping on egg shells in the relationship for fear of conflict exploding, yet again and finally a start to acknowledging the ultimate denial that was possibly going on within you, that "everything is fine" in the relationship.

So if you've had your heart broken, hold on, drink plenty of red wine, cheese and crackers, not forgetting the carrot sticks and get as much support as you can muster in dealing with your pain that cuts like a knife — remember you are a good and beautiful person with lots of fine qualities. You will heal and life will get much, much better. I guarantee it!

With love
Michael