In your own time

By Michael Knight

Sunday 20 September 2009

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Separation and its loathsome effects hits some of us harder than others, ultimately taking us longer to recover. Some people may even tell you to "build a bridge and get over it, get on with your life or just get over it and move on" and so on. You may have heard other similar sorts of sayings.

Whilst these people may mean well and possibly have the right idea, the way in which these comments are often delivered lack thought, care or consideration for another, often revealing arrogance and ignorance. Try not let words like this upset or frustrate you, causing you more angst and confusion. It's good to remember that some people just don't think, lack experience, awareness, empathy or understanding for another.

Sometimes, it is good to hear the opinions of others as they can be helpful beacons as to possible paths to follow, however whilst the message maybe correct, the timing, relevance and appropriateness to you may do you more harm than good, so pop your boundaries up and push these types of people and comments to the side, at least for the time being. You will be ready, when you want to be ready, in your own time and not according to someone else's schedule. Plus it's wise for you not to take on board decisions or judgments about you that is contrary to your health and well-being.

Be strong and responsible — block them out!

So take your time and push forward when and however you can. You know better than anyone when the time's right, and that you not only have a life to live, but more important a good life, a full life and a successful life to boot.

Although we are all essentially the same by nature, our experiences, customs, habits, practices and the way we think often set us poles apart. As many have said before me, "Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal", with the worthy ideal(an idea with love) for you, being all that you wish to be.

So take your time, you will not only get there — a time will come when you will start to get feelings of aliveness, with bursts of excitement kicking in, giving you the realisation that you are free and on your way to a place far better than you once would have ever imagined.

With love
Michael