When one doesn't firstly open up their heart and then listen to the other person's heart, that relationship is usually doomed and destined for a Separation or Divorce, whether they both know it or not, unless immediate changes based on love are made by the both of you, finding that fit, so to speak.
Listening to each others heart and really connecting with one another is one of the most fundamental secrets to keeping a relationship fresh and alive. People will stay together, maybe forever. However, the alternative is grim, as a depletion of love and vitality will almost certainly ensure a gradual death of your heart, and the relationship.
Some people are strong and very much into themselves, knowing exactly what they want and when they want it. These people are often the ones who bail out of the relationship when they're not getting what they want, despite the needs of their partner, children or others. At first this may seem selfish to many, however if done in the right way avoiding conflict, unhappiness and allows people to find more compatible partners and suitable pursuits, it must overall be seen with understanding and acceptance rather than with disdain. Of course it may hurt at first, however in time the benefits will send your pain into insignificance and your heart will heal.
Other people who bail out of the relationship base their decisions more on a survival level when after much discussion and many attempts to prise their partners heart open, and sometimes their own, they eventually come to realise that their efforts are in vain, and walk. Often to the shock horror of their partner mind you, either because they were asleep in the relationship, hadn't the communication and connection skills needed, or having someone ever leave them was not part of their values or belief system. Or simply, some people just mature in different ways creating a fork in the tree so wide that it must eventually snap.
Others stay in the relationship in the hope it will work out and try gallantly in every respect. These people are to be honoured. They are usually the eternal optimists and definitely the relationship material type. What is present though are usually childhood and maturity issues which are no fault of their own, but simply need to be explored and worked through. As their maturity, awareness and experiences grow, they will surely become super human beings of love and peace in their hearts.
There are many other reasons people stay in a relationship, often at the sacrifice of their overall happiness and well-being. More often than not it is around their beliefs and values, centering around security. Even at the expense of being frightened and remaining in denial, convincing themselves everything is ok and that the relationship is not over. Many parents often stay for the sake of the kids as the concept of an intact family is strong. Other reasons include, money, status, keeping up appearances and an image and so on. Whilst many reasons are admirable and also to be honoured, it can also be a recipe for disaster, no matter which way you turn. It can be tricky if open, honest and heartfelt communication is not present.
Plus who's to judge what's right or wrong? Perhaps it simply boils down to how much pain your heart can bear, and whether you value yourself enough and strong enough to implement positive change, either by yourself or reaching out before it's too late. I guess the way people dress it up doesn't really matter, it's their life, except when it comes to yourself, then it becomes a real sad and heart breaking affair.
So is it imperative that us heart people find another heart person to be in a relationship with? I think so
PS.If you're a heart person please enjoy the song below hope you like it. Just gotta love this song. *Remember to view it in full screen
Powerful song that may make you shed a tear if watched at the right moment, such as your heart breaking after a relationship ending due to a lack of a heartfelt connection or togetherness. Thank you Rod, Amy, the band, audience and of course the sax player, baritone was it?
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love that pumping heart
i did not picture you as someone who would listen to Rod..... or was it Amy who had your attention?????
It was a video that can be confronting to those of us wondering how to move on; perhaps still wanting that passionate relationship with a supporting partner one day,yet whether to risk that pain again.
Thanks for reminding me of that passion
The 'eternal optimists' who stay can often end up depressed, as a result of denial and have to also overcome this
keep up the great support you offer us all!
with thanks