A Separation takes time
Saturday 25 July 2009
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A Separation can take time but seriously, how much time do you have?
The effects of a Separation or Divorce vary from one person to the next and will take some time to heal like any form of injury, however the main thing to remember is that life will get better. Knowing this will help strengthen your faith that one day life will again be full of joy.
Separation is code word for change.
A Separation is about change to your mind, body, lifestyle and practical circumstances. Depending on the type of person you are, coping with change can be relatively easy and not take much time at all. Or like many people, it can consume your life in one form or another taking up substantial time, five, ten or more years, robbing you of your valuable life.
To help implement change in the shortest time possible, healing therapies of all kinds are advised, to help heal and soothe your wounded mind and body. Plenty of support and good company, eat nutritious food and do whatever else you feel it takes to care for yourself. The stronger and healthier you are, the more you will feel better and be able to place your attention on the things you love, such as your children, work and interests. The more you value yourself, the clearer and better decisions you will make about the choices you have in front of you, such as what you want and legal decisions. There is no right or wrong, just what works for you.
Depending on where you're at this can be extremely hard at times, especially in the beginning with your emotions fired up and out of control, but it must be done. It's vital you get on top of the situation and get through this hiccup of life they call Separation, and onto bigger and better adventures that await you.
Also, another vital ingredient to recovery is to begin to be truly grateful for everything good in your life, and I mean everything down to the air you breathe, to appreciating the sun shining, the trees blowing in the wind, the ants scurrying around looking for food, the freedom you have, your good health and being blessed with wonderful family and friends. If you can acknowledge the mere miracle that you are here now, and alive, you will be on the right path.
People often refer to a Separation as a form of death, and if this is true, being grateful maybe seen as a rebirth. Hence take time to practice some daily gratitude and think about the most precious things that exist in your life. You will soon see these most beautiful and extraordinary gifts did not cost you one penny, they were all given to you for free. WOW! By practicing gratitude, all your perceived Separation woes will be put into perspective. Matters that you perhaps worry about and think are big, are in fact small and often insignificant.
So there you have it, being grateful for everything is the key. A simple thank you to everyone on this planet for everything you receive. There really is so much to be grateful for, it is purely just a matter of discovering them all and having a fun and exciting time doing so. Just like a big Easter egg hunt as a child looking for all those chocolate eggs. Do you remember the excitement and exhilaration that filled your body then?
Maybe as an adult giving thanks with every breath, you too will again discover those wondrous feelings of excitement, exhilaration and bliss.
Again, take care and with love
Michael
For a wonderful website to express and view comments of gratitude visit: www.IamSoGrateful.org
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I write all this for readers to think long and hard about this separation process getting as much info and help as possible. If i knew what i now know i would have ran a million miles away and not felt at all bad. The system lures parents in simply to get you into a battle costing you or me well over $140k. You will not win in a system that tricks people. Go spend your money on a holiday around the world. You will be far better off!!