It is all so common for many, especially after a Separation, to be caught up in either the past worrying about what was, or similarly, being afraid of what the future may hold.
Whilst both have their merits, to be analyzed and planned for respectively, one is wise to not let neither of these states of mind rob you from enjoying the present, or being in the moment, no matter what is going on for you.
The benefits of really being in the moment are almost endless from feeling a full sense of awareness and aliveness to cherishing every moment you have breathing, knowing that with your will and a definiteness of purpose you can do almost anything you desire.
Remember how you felt as a young child being graced with a present before you? Why the excitement, exhilaration and joy was no doubt bursting out of you as you tore away the wrapping to see what was inside. It may not have been so much about what was received, rather it was what fun you had from those immense feelings inside of you exploding out like high pressured bubbles of champagne foaming everywhere as the cork flew wildly into the air.
You weren't concerned with what had happened in the past and certainly weren't contemplating the future, you were simply consumed with feelings of excitement and thrills from what was happening at the time, were you not?
Yes, what a ball you had as a kid, in many times of play and many spontaneous moments I'm sure. So what happened as you grew up and became good ol' Mr or Mrs responsibility possibly from a very young age. Do you feel like you may have lost something along the way?
Well, we can't let the kids have all the fun now can we.
This we have now
is not imagination.
This is not
grief or joy.
Not a judging state,
or an elation,
or sadness.
Those come and go.
This is the presence that doesn't.
Poem by Jelaluddin Rumi
Perhaps it's not so much about what you may have lost, it is possibly more about what you have yet to gain, with some silence and awareness from being in the present. Yes, your awareness with practice will surely become acute making a for a greater level of enjoyment at the very least.
When kids are young and free and uninhibited from the woes of adulthood, their excitement is born out of their true self. As kids become teenagers, becoming more self aware and absorbed, their ego or false self starts controlling their life.
When becoming adults, save a few who have been disciplined early, will continue to be driven by their ego a self image, status and identity made up from who they see themselves as, who they think they are in the eyes of others and how important this is to them.
However, when your awareness of your true self and the illusion of the world shines through, doth will you have double the fun that a child ever has. For you will hopefully have gained an awareness of the bliss of each moment in the present, no matter what path you may be on.
Yes, what a gift!
With love, kindness and peace
Michael
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