Emotional honesty (Download)

By Michael Knight

Sunday 18 September 2011

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Is your current relationship or was your last one lacking some emotional honesty?

Simply, emotional honesty is where you are present and available to each other. When your energy is in motion (e-motion) with each other, you are both in balance, harmony and in rhythm if you like, paving the way for a clear and open passage of acceptance and understanding of how you feel and what's on your mind.

Where what is going on for you will be received with some feeling and concern. Perhaps some reaction dependent upon your level of emotion as a sign the other person is there with you. It's not about one or both being drama queens or even reacting emotionally equally, it's simply feeling that the other person is present with you and sharing what's going on for you. An indication that you matter and are important to them.

Feeling heard and acknowledged is a serious issue and vital to the success of any relationship, alternatively there are plenty of one night stands and casual flings for those who are emotionally void and aren't wanting to wear their heart on their sleeve.

Emotional honesty must be a complete transparency of each others souls for better or worse. Failing to do so may see either or both of you emotionally shut down or shut off completely, if this absolute freedom to express yourself and be who you are at any time is not allowed, imbibed nor understood, or at least worked through until it is.

And yes, it is work. Like all good things created and preserved work is required. All healthy functional relationships require work on some level, so if you are not prepared to put in the effort an commitment you may as well get out of the kitchen. Likewise, if you detect your loved one is blasé and not diligently putting in the emotional work, it is best to discuss the issues and work through them, else cut this person loose. If your values aren't aligned in this respect, the relationship possibly has no chance of enduring anyway.

Even if the relationship may afford some benefits such as security, certainty and children, it will not promote love if you feel your partner is not emotionally present and there with you. It will be important to weigh up the lack of this emotional honesty in the relationship and the effects upon you. You maybe like two peas in a pod, but if in different pods you may need to ask yourself is this what you really want.

A one sided relationship where your emotional time and energy is not being well received and valued is surely a defunct notion. It is certainly part of your emotional honesty to state your case loud and as clear as possible or seek an alternative partner. Don't be too hard on yourself or the other person either as the timing or compatibility is just not right for some people. Just remember to value yourself properly and realise you have a fine gift and share your emotional bond with someone who can reciprocate.

However, it's not really alot for a person to do if they really love and care about you, no more than any other work in a relationship. It is everything though if you want to have a whole and fulfilling relationship, not just an empty shell of nothing. Sharing another person's life can be a gratifying experience. Getting to know them deep to the core, seeing them change, helping, supporting, being everything you can and allowing them to be the same can afford you some wonderful emotional and spiritual growth.

Being emotionally honest maybe new and present a few challenges for some, but it's certainly worth the effort and practice if both you and your loved one mean anything at all. It's a liberation of your soul that should be celebrated and encouraged whenever possible. It will improve your levels of intimacy, sensuality and sexual exploration and activity, not to mention enhancing your intuitive and mental connection with each other.

Sharing what is going on for each other should not be seen as a consuming chore as hard as it maybe at times. Simply it is often just being open, listening and being interested in the other person, not really very hard at all. We all have plenty of time for this and should avail ourselves of this activity on a regular basis and when it is called for.

Emotional honesty is a strength, a muscle that should be exercised for proper function and effectiveness in not only your intimate relationship, but in all your relationships. It of course may need to be done slowly at first until a firm connection is established and by all means seek out people who allow you this emotional freedom. By having outlets for this emotional freedom you will on the whole feel better within yourself.

With love, kindness and peace
Michael