The Separation problem and a Fix

By Michael Knight

Sunday 19 September 2010

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As the Family Separation phenomena is growing daily on a world scale, it is imperative solutions are available to people to alleviate much of the pain they suffer once and for all — if indeed people are willing to adopt such solutions over their addictive, immature and dark sides of their personality.

All throughout evolution the human body and psyche has been conditioned for advancement, not retardation or loss, as many know it as.

Whilst nature and unintentional accidents have caused much pain, suffering and loss of human life, it could be said this is largely unavoidable and a sad fact of life. However, intentional pain, suffering and loss both initiated and exacerbated by man should be seen in a different light and deemed absolutely unacceptable.

It's no wonder your mental health can take a dive, with your physical health and behaviour often right behind it. As your sense of loss kicks in, you come to realise the people you love and things you have formed attachments to, have been stripped from your life — and not just from a freak of nature but as a deliberate act of man. It's almost a battle of who gets to exercise their free will the most.

As a society whose awareness I believe is growing to a more humane existence for all, lessening the ills of pain and suffering on many levels, we must further expand this notion to the world of humans Separating from each other and stop rewarding those who benefit at the expense of others. This has to and will change as our consciousness makes yet another paradigm shift in finding and providing better solutions to support people during and post their Separation woes, possibly a day when Separation will just become a new path of as opposed to one of bloodshed and destruction of families for generations to come.

Although, to discover the many solutions to what appears to be a complex problem, we must first seek to understand the problem in it's entirety and then tease out the threads of difficulty for examination. Hence, a good start maybe to look at how you perceive the Separation — is it a loss or a gain? List all your losses compared with what you may gain.

Dealing with your perception of loss first, what are you losing exactly? Typical examples of loss are below however there may be many more depending on how deep you dig.

Some of what you perceive to lose may include:

Now as for a fix, all this starts with your mind; knowledge, perceptions, maturity and past programming in your subconscious spitting out your values, including what you believe to be true and correct.

This will in turn determine how effective your decision making capacity is and how well you handle your emotions and behaviour.

From this comes your communication and a relationship with your ex, as to how best to care for the children and manage all the financial/legal issues.

Whilst some people can manage to live a half normal life with all the horrors of a full blown Separation happening, others may not until the Separation is finalised. Some people want a Separation finalised quickly while others need time to deal with a level of shock and grief associated with the split.

So whilst the above is a general overview of the process, it can nonetheless be a framework for you to plot your unique and specific solutions. Good luck —

With love, kindness and peace
Michael