What does a Separation mean to you?

By Michael Knight

Friday 17 September 2010

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Believe it or not, you have full control of your life. This does not mean you will get exactly what you want, in the form you want, all the time. It does mean however you have the power to obtain the knowledge to choose what your Separation will mean to you.

If there are no big competing issues between you as parents, hopefully only slight changes will occur in your daily and physical life, with little or no growth needed by you to overcome the barriers and challenges that lay before you.

On the other hand, if there are a few tussles due to hurt, emotions, differences in values and even a power imbalance, big life changes may occur and be necessary. However, hopefully in a relatively short time common sense will prevail on both sides allowing the sting of the split to die down. You may be parents that have common sense and can at the end of the day put your differences aside and see reason, allowing all family members to make the necessary changes to forge a new life in peace and harmony.

However, with a very difficult Separation, chances are you will need to undergo a huge transformation in order to cope with the path you have chosen to travel. Both of you are possibly poles apart and have been for some time, with your values, ability to reason and communicate often going out the window big time, making any chance of a peaceful and amicable resolution slim to nothing, at least in the short term. You will most likely see your family torn apart for many years causing immense heartache and cost.

Under the guise of humanity some of the values Beyond Separation espouse for parents to adopt are gratitude, tolerance, patience, understanding, compassion, fairness, harmony, peace and of course keeping love in their heart, no matter what the circumstances are. For these will help quench the fire of negative emotions cleansing your soul and those around you.

This is not only to allow parents and children to get through the Separation without much harm, but for all family members to have a more fruitful relationship with each other in the years to come. If unable to consider this option for yourself, at least do so for the sake of your children, as they will always be a sacred bond you both will share until the day you die.

Furthermore, the less harm that's inflicted during the trials and tribulations of a Separation, the quicker and easier it will be for you to resume a normal, productive and advancing life without conflict, either by going back to a former lifestyle or by carving out a completely new one.

With love, kindness and peace
Michael