Where did your power go?

By Michael Knight

Thursday 12 August 2010

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Dear Michael,

I attended upon a counselor to help me with an abusive relationship I am in, with my aim to receive some good advice in regaining my power as the man in the relationship.

At the conclusion of our session she simply directed me to just be myself, and start taking control and ownership of my stuff.

However, when I told my girlfriend "I own you" she belittled me and slapped my face.
Am I missing something? ... Brad M, North Carolina US.

An interesting parable and while almost comical, it is too close to the truth for some.

So why have you got yourself in this pickle?
What happened to your power and where did it go?

Well simply, you gave your power away in the relationship. That's right, away!

"Why did I do that?" you may ask. Well, that's a good question.

You may have liked giving it away in return for some type of physical, emotional or materialistic payoff. You may have given it away unconsciously or perhaps you were in such a devalued and traumatised state from childhood or previous relationships before this one, that you were totally unaware of your power missing in the first place. Have your fears been controlling your life?

Perhaps you got stuck in the habit of giving as you felt you had to keep giving to receive some form of approval, or love. Maybe to this day you have still kept giving in order to receive this magical love that you may just never receive in the form you think it should come. The realisation of this can be a sad moment indeed, however a very necessary one to deal with this situation of no power. If this is the case, you will have to give the love you seek to yourself in the way of self love and from spirit, for it is in abundance let me tell you, and you are most welcome to and worthy of this precious gift of love.

Or possibly the ultimate game in this human state of yours was to pretend you never had any power or had simply lost it, and the real power and fun was for you to experience what it was like without the natural almighty power you really do have, and then when you were ready and tired of that game, it was time for you to say "POWER RETURN" and your power was fully back, as if it had never really left your side. Some people describe this experience as a form of awakening or like coming out of a coma after some form of breakdown or head injury.

What has happened in the past is no longer important save to learn from it. What matters now is you are aware of your power and how vital to your well-being it really is, and how much more you can accomplish with it. So I guess now you won't be giving it away willy nilly.

If you give long enough you will almost certainly get into the habit of giving. Whilst a beautiful and loving gesture it can prove detrimental to your health if not managed properly and directed to the right people or situation. Keep the giving going, first to your self and then to all those kind souls that depend on the love in your heart.

Power is energy. To increase your energy and not deplete it, simply focus on what you do love and want instead of what you don't. You will attract all good things to you. Align your inspiration and the intention of the mind, and your physical body will perform the actions needed to gain the desired results you seek.

With love, kindness and peace
Michael