Support & Knowledge

By Michael Knight

Tuesday 2 February 2010

Article: 1,629 chars

Tweet

0Comments

Don't go through a Separation alone!

Seek out and setup networks to gain both support and knowledge relevant to your situation. Appropriate networks may include family, friends, counselors, groups, internet, meeting new people, leisure activities and pleasurable pursuits etc.

Emotional support is extremely important and beneficial however it is obtained. Knowledge can be a form of power and control providing a level of security and certainty.

Good legal advice is invaluable in relation to your rights and entitlements. Be prepared to shop around. Straight advice is just between you and the lawyer, and of course confidential.

A word of caution. Having a lawyer act for you is when they start liaising with your ex, or their lawyers and before you know it, you are both in court. Emotions and conflict usually flare up, people go into defend and justify mode, communication and peaceful negotiations is usually thwarted, costs will sky rocket once the litigation process starts and your life generally can go downhill from here for at least sometime, depending on the attitude of one or both parents and the financial resources available to lawyers by way of the asset pool. This should really be a last resort as there are many more peaceful and amicable avenues to pursue first.

If however, you know how family lawyers work, can control them, understand their game and the effects it will have on your ex partner and the children, and if it really will result in a positive outcome it may be a viable option.

Decide you need help and start building your networks today.

With love, kindness and peace
Michael