A dying love (cont)

By Michael Knight

Sunday 14 February 2010

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No matter how hard a person who has an inner knowing of dying love, he or she will not find true happiness with another who does not share similar spiritual beliefs and values connecting them, and I am certainly not referring to any brand of religion and the many self serving interpretations.

Be my guest and try. Waste your time, energy and love all over them, for if it were to happen you would know it in your heart in an instant. Be the bearer of sad news I maybe, however equally I bring good news that you have still time on the journey to seek your deeper truth.

Look it's nice to share the 'I love you's, do the companion thing, maybe a hint of romantic love in the air from time to time flaring up some passion causing you to believe it can work if only you keep putting the occasional effort in. Yes, it's mighty fine to share these things, however like a pudding, the proof is in the eating.

A strong love can take time, true, like building a house, however the foundations of connecting with each other must be first established, followed by a meeting of the hearts and minds, with similar if not the same values and beliefs being cemented with some iron clad commitment. From there, if it's really meant to be, you will be given some wings to fly where only few ever go, knowing or caring for no other, loving, sacrificing and dying for the other when need be.

You may look on, aghast at the thought of dying for your loved one, and if so you are not quite yet there my friend.

These people who share a bond of a dying love can humbly live on food, water and the love they have for each other. The gratitude they have for each other and all the beauty of nature that has been provided is simply enough, and all there ever needs to be.

They are people who can sit quietly, are comfortable with themselves and mostly at peace. Inward people, not outward needing external stimulation, distractions or intervention to keep them amused, and they are certainly not driven and misled by their ego.

A passionate, unrelenting love facing and overcoming obstacles, a love that meshes two hearts and minds collectively in togetherness, can be a dying love, only a few will understand, let alone truly experience.

If you are in a relationship and there is love attached in some form, it is to be valued and cherished. Certainly not to be knocked or underestimated, despite us venting our frustrations during disgruntled periods. For it's these challenging times that can forge us closer together, if we have both the capacity and willingness to do so.

Relationships that comprise of love and growth are to be enjoyed, as they can reflect what you are and not, giving insight into what you may wish to become. They can be valuable in realising, reestablishing or reinforcing your identity. You may feel warm, alive and nourished or you may experience loneliness and feelings of emptiness. Either way relationships will serve your overall growth.

A dying love in my book is possibly the deepest of all loves — a sacrificial love giving rise to the highest good and meaning that can be bestowed upon you. A similar strain being shared by parents and their offspring, where self sacrifice is a given, when needed.

This dying love I refer to may defy some common sense, academics, text books and even theologians, however I assure you it exists, perhaps under a different name, I simply don't know.

However this puritan's form of love of devotion, belonging, being needed and willingness to sacrifice themselves for another, can bring you nothing but absolute joy.

Sometimes love from a logical perspective makes no sense at all, so for all you analytical head thinkers, perhaps give it up now. Just as we have transcended the boundaries of physical distance, so have the boundaries disappeared between those who have aspired to the notion of a dying love.

It's a love where you want and need each other, a combo of codependency sprinkled with interdependency along a journey of kindred spirits if you will.

When viewed from outside of this dying love it's hard to fathom the completeness and perfection of this love, aspiring toward oneness with all — a most wonderful aliveness and feeling of bliss. It may appear to be a blind or naive love, alas you would be wrong as these people can sometimes be most enlightened, a humbling lesson for us all. Mind you, the price of this wholeness is not without it's battles, which are like dealing with your inner conflicts being extended outside of yourself being role played between the two of you.

If you have Separated from a dying love for some obscure or predictable reason now looking back in hindsight with greater wisdom, an attachment disorder may still reside causing you great pain and suffering. If you are to overcome this you will need to work on yourself both on the physical and spiritual plane to set you free.

A dying love is a love like no other love —

With love, kindness and peace
Michael