A world of Separation

By Michael Knight

Wednesday 28 October 2009

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Separation of families is world-wide, affecting almost everyone in one form or another. And I'm sure most people will agree, it's a shitty place to be.

As people's choices, stress, discontent, growth, awareness, disillusionment and immorality increases just to name a few, so does Separation.

Current statistics reveal 1 in 3 marriages ending in divorce, with possibly 1 in 2 ending in Separation.

However, it's just a matter of time when figures will reflect every family experiencing a Separation or breakdown. With diminishing incentives and misguided education from families, government and society, it is unlikely a reversal will happen any time soon — if at all.

However, Separation itself is not the real problem — it's the way in which we do it, that causes many people unnecessary pain, suffering and loss, both short and long term. It's what we don't know that causes us to fall into the trap.

Separation, especially when children are involved, must be taken seriously and with all avenues investigated thoroughly to keep the family intact — as the benefits of a cohesive family on all levels, far outweighs the benefits to individuals after a Separation. The psychological, financial, time and energy depletion of individuals after a Separation are just a few of the devestating consequences that support this finding.

Beyond Separation does not condone Separation, however if all avenues have been exhausted to fix and heal the relationship, or one person simply 'wants out', there is little you can do. Change is imminent. You can't force a person to stay in a relationship against their free will — married or not! It's unhealthy, wrong and totally unworkable — you just can't do it.

So a Separation it is...

Depending on the personalities, attitudes and maturity of both of you involved, the choices you individually make will determine whether the Separation process will be quick, simple and relatively pain free, or complex, time consuming with a real possibility of disastrous results, not only short term but for many years to come.

If the latter path is embarked upon, your life and that of your children can be placed into a negative state for quite some time, needing long term rehabilitation. At worst, the taking of life is possible. Hence, a Separation must always be handled delicately, respectfully and fairly, giving you both time to adjust to change.

Separation can be a journey like no other and is different for everyone; it being as unique as that loving smile on your face. Although not obvious at first, due to being consumed with shock and grief, Separation can be a positive change and beneficial for you and all family members, if conducted in the right way, through education and you having the right attitude.

So don't let Separation or Divorce be a scary word, as fear is only a result of ignorance and lack of knowledge. Come to our groups, source information and with some personal development you will feel better equipped to handle what can appear to be one of the most traumatic periods of your life. However, under the covers of this period of anguish can be a whole new exciting world waiting to be discovered, so keep positive, even in those darkest hours. The quicker you learn, the quicker you will turn, the corner.

Mind you in the same breath, when things look hopeless & your back is to the wall, you'll find you need us cause there's no one else to call. Don't stand alone, the team at Beyond won't let you fall —

Keep strong...

With love, kindness and peace
Michael